A study on masculinity and aggression from the University of South Florida found that innocuous – yet feminine – tasks could produce profound anxiety in men. As part of the study, a group of men were asked to perform a stereotypically feminine act – braiding hair in this case - while a control group braided rope. Following the act, the men were given the option to either solve a puzzle or punch a heavy bag. Not surprisingly, the men who performed the task that threatened their masculinity were far more likely to punch the bag; again, violence serving as a way to reestablish their masculine identity. A follow-up had both groups punch the bag after braiding either hair or rope; the men who braided the hair punched the bag much harder. A third experiment, all the participants braided hair, but were split into two groups: those who got to punch the bag afterwards and those who didn’t. The men who were prevented from punching the bag started to show acute signs of anxiety and distress from not being able to reconfirm their masculinity.
I think a lot of people don’t understand that when we talk about these issues—blackface, rape jokes, the appropriation of marginalized cultures, and so on—we are having an ethical conversation, not a legal one. There is no thought police. No one’s coming to your house and carting you off to Insensitivity Prison. But you, as a person living on this planet, get to make a choice whether you want to hurt people or help people. Whether you want to listen or shut people out. I can’t imagine why you’d choose “defensive shithead” over “nice lady capable of empathy,” but okey dokey.
Create your own gender. Invent your own pronouns. You are not limited to the language we have. You are not limited to the lie of the gender binary. Gender is limitless and so are you. Your identity is valid, and anyone who tells you otherwise needs to be slam-dunked into a garbage can.
Laverne Cox just made history (again). Her talent, honesty, and resilience enable her to do amazing things: http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/envelope/tv/la-et-st-emmys-laverne-cox-trans-orange-is-the-new-black-20140710-story.html
“These messages are out there, but they are untrue and unacceptable. The Hobby Lobby case started a battle I never thought I would have to fight in 2014, but I’m here, and I’m ready to fight.”
Read more here: http://www.sparksummit.com/2014/07/11/scotuss-hobby-lobby-decision-is-dangerous-for-girls/
Gonna keep a tally of messages I get from a) white feminists completely proving my point and b) people who think this comic proves feminism is worthless because I criticized one part of it. (Even despite me writing these words underneath the comic.) Then I’ll add them all up, see which column has more, and then drink myself to sleep either way.
Haha… this is why we can’t have nice things.
“I hear America singing, the varied carols I hear…”— Walt Whitman, “I Hear America Singing”Celebrate July 4th with this collection that reveals the diversity of the American experience.
- The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henríquez (unknownamericans)
- Little Failure: A Memoir by Gary Shteyngart
- American Chica: Two Worlds, One Childhood by Marie Arana
- Digging to America by Anne Tyler
- Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
- I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
- Mona in the Promised Land by Gish Jen
- The Other Wes Moore: One Name, Two Fates by Wes Moore
- Funny in Farsi: A Memoir of Growing Up Iranian in America by Firoozeh Dumas
- The House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros